Imagine what you could accomplish if you were confident in any situation? Confidence is something you can achieve but in order to do so you need to proactively develop it yourself, it doesn’t simply happen.You may sometimes suffer from “spotlight effect” a time when your confidence just plummets seconds before you need it most. Try these easy-to-remember steps to getting your confidence back.
Here are 8 ways to help you start building your confidence right now!
1. Take chances that take you out of your comfort zone.
Don’t be afraid to feel uncomfortable – doubt often prevents us from trying something new and the result is that we end up not discovering our true potential. Putting yourself in situations where you are forced to try something new and overcome obstacles will help you build your confidence.
2. Ask yourself the question… “So What ?” Here are some instances where this question might help you break through imprisoning inhibitions: “If I voice my opinion during a meeting, my colleagues are going to disagree with me” So what’s the worst that can happen? Every time you feel yourself hesitating to do something that might impact on decreasing your confidence-ask the question.
3. Fail fast and fail often.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Thomas A. Edison. Failure is part of achieving success. Failure is how you learn what you can overcome and that you are capable of rising above difficulties. Each time you come through a challenge your confidence will be boosted and you will have the strength and the belief to overcome the next obstacle.
4. Boost someone else’s confidence.
If someone does a good job applaud them. If someone looks great, compliment them. Refuse to engage in gossip. By looking for the best in others, you bring out the best in you.
5. Ignore what most people think of you.
Stop worrying about what everyone thinks of you. If you have the trust and respect of your clients, friends and colleagues that you admire, you will have the confidence to achieve anything.
6. Calm yourself
Get rid of nervous energy by walking around the office or the parking lot. Prepare to become focused. Take a few minutes on your own, take a few deep breathes and then walk into the meeting room. Once you have taken your place in front of everyone – take a breath and then smile.
7. Face your fears
How many of our fears come from how we think people will perceive us if we do or say something? Talk to a friend / colleague about them – so you can get an objective opinion. Harness them- If they are under your control, you don’t have to worry about them. Ask your fears questions such as: where, what, why, when, and how? Free them – Let them go. Tell them to have fun, but not to come back.
8. Start right NOW.
There will never be a perfect time to try and achieve confidence. All it takes is one small step and with each step you will grow more capable and confident. Go ahead, start now and see how your life will start to change!
“Confidence is the key. If you don’t believe in yourself, no-one will.” – Unknown
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